Anonymous said: hey lovely i need advice, my boyfriend watches tranny porn and he likes it up the butt, and he loves dick but yet hes with me? im a girl i feel like i have some tranny features but none the less im still a women do you think my boyfriend might be gay? he is in love with me and we plan on getting married , im 20 my bf is 21 but i fear that when were older he will change his mind and turn fully gay, he has searches on google searching for she males in my area. im so sorry to ask all of this i really am in love with him and i dont care that he likes trannys at all but the fact that i have to get strap ons and lick his a**hole just kills the sex life (for me) sometimes i wish i was a transvestite just to make him happy. but please can u tell me everything you know about trannys, your experiences, etc. thank u so much

Hmm, this is a tough one. I mean, it’s not, but, it is.

What I mean by that is, I was hoping he just liked looking at tranny porn and getting it in the butt. But, the fact that he’s looking for trannies in your area…and you guys are in a relationship? Not cool.

Also, if strap-on sex and and butt-licking is killing your sex life, then, there’s something totally wrong here.

First off, just because a guy looks at tranny porn doesn’t mean he’s gay or even bi for that matter…maybe, it kind of depends on what kind of tranny stuff he’s looking into.

If he’s looking at pictures of Sarina Valentina:

Or Giselle Milani:

Or Kimber James:

He’s probably not gay. Or bi. I know people might disagree with me, but, speaking from my own experience which is what you asked for, in my opinion looking at these types of trannies and shemales, isn’t homosexual or bisexual. They look like REAL women. But have penises.

However, if he’s looking at manly crossdressers, manly drag queens, manly tranvestites…then…the possibility of him being bi or gay gets raised.

Thing is, I am a part-time transvestite. And I am straight. I like getting it in the butt and getting my ass licked. I like manly trannies but like glamourous drag queens or somewhat still passable manly trannies and of course girly trannies (like Sarina Valentina or Morgan McMichaels). And of course preferably real genetic women.

Even though I like and do all that, I do not find men attractive whatsoever. I do not find penis attractive unless I know it’s attached to a passable trans type person

Having said that, as a follower of my blog I’m sure at some point you’ve read that I’d have sex with men given certain circumstances. Even THAT arguably doesn’t make me bi. In my opinion what makes someone gay or bi, is finding the opposite sex attractive to the point that you could conceivably be in a relationship with them. The only way I’d have sex with a man is to get something from it. Whether that be money, a power struggle, material goods, whatever! It wouldn’t be a decision I’d come to lightly, but, it’s something I’d consider if the guy was handsome in a general sort of way and I was getting something I wanted out of it.

To clarify, I’ve never been with a man. Nor probably will I ever be. They annoy the fuck out of me.

Moving on, his attraction to trannies aside, he CAN’T be looking at trannies in your area if you guys are in a non-open-relationship. If you guys are in a open-relationship, then it’s fine; as long as he talks to you about it. To me, this is the foundation for cheating. Jump on this before he jumps on some local tranny dick and you end up getting hurt.

Thirdly, if strap-on sex and butt licking isn’t your thing. You gotta talk to him about it. Thing is, if he likes strap-on sex and butt licking so much and you don’t? This isn’t going to go well. People like me and your boyfriend who thrive on kinky sex, need it at least sometimes. And we need people who WANT to do it. Not just tolerate it. You just doing it for him to be nice, meanwhile you hating every minute of it, isn’t healthy.

Ultimately you guys need to talk to one another and soon. Don’t drag this on. (No pun intended?)

Hopefully this helps, and seriously, ask me anything ever! <3

Good luck! And I hope things work out for the two of you, otherwise if they don’t, it’s not the end of the world. It just means it wasn’t mean’t to be.

Take care darling…be good to yourself.